If you find out that he’s making less digital contact with his girlfriend at the same time, that makes it even more likely that his affections have shifted to you!
If you do catch a look into his eyes, see if his pupils seem to be bigger than normal. Pupil dilation is a common sign of physical attraction.
He might inch closer towards you, bit by bit, as you’re standing in a group. Or, if you sit next to him at the lunch table, you might notice that his chair ends up a little closer to yours than to the person sitting on the other side of him. Once he gets closer, he’ll look for reasons to make even the slightest little physical contact with you. He might tap you on the shoulder to get your attention, for example, instead of just calling out your name. Or, he might brush his arm up against yours when moving past you to get to his seat.
He talks about things that make him look good, like sports successes or academic achievements. He brings up topics that he knows (or at least thinks) you’ll find interesting. He flirts with you, probably either by lightly teasing you (“Good job, fumbles! Oh, I guess I’ll help you pick those things up”) or subtly complimenting you (“Did you do your hair differently today? It’s nice”). He asks meaningful questions to get to know you better. [5] X Expert Source Joshua PompeyRelationship Expert Expert Interview. 4 December 2019.
You mention offhand once to a group (including him) that red is your favorite color. A week later, when he’s handing out notebooks for a group assignment in school, he hands you the red notebook and adds, “since it’s your favorite color. ” You happened to say in passing 3 months ago that your birthday was on the first day of summer. Even though you’re keeping things low-key and aren’t having any kind of birthday party, he remembers to send you a quick “happy birthday” text on the right day.
This works in the other direction as well. Does he seem extra bummed out when you don’t laugh at one of his jokes?
He’ll probably also try to impress with his body language by standing taller, holding his shoulders back, and sucking in his gut a bit more.
He might, for example, give a hearty laugh when you tell a joke but barely smirk when his girlfriend tells one. Or, he might keep his arms crossed when talking to his girlfriend but uncross them when facing you. Guys—and all people in general—usually aren’t as good at hiding their emotions as they think they are. If he just seems more excited about you than about her, then it’s probably true!
It’s also possible that he’ll try really hard to make it seem like their relationship still has a spark even if he’s no longer really feeling it. He could be just doing a poor job of trying to mask his true feelings for you. If his signs of affection towards her look fake, they probably are.
Some guys are just disagreeable in general and get annoyed easily with everyone. Here again, compare how he acts with you versus how he acts towards her in similar situations.
For example, say you’re hanging out in a group and the girlfriend asks him if he’s going to take her to the movies tonight. Take it as a major sign if he turns towards you and says something like, “Hey, let’s make it a group thing—you guys want to come along?”
If you’re friends with the girlfriend, she might confide in you about her suspicions. You may then be put in the awkward situation of confiding your own suspicions to her—that is, if you’re more interested in maintaining your friendship with her than you are in pursuing her current boyfriend!
This might be harder to spot if you two were already close friends and are used to confiding in each other. If so, look for signs that he’s confiding in you more than before, and at the same time confiding in her less than before.
